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I'm going to post an anecdote, in this entry. One that I know to be very true.
There's a sister, with a very domineering mother. She got married, quite recently and when it came time for her and her husband to find themselves a house, the area that they were looking at was not to her parents liking, dsespite it being entirely their choice and the fact that the brother and his family were from there.
The debate went on and the brother and sister are not living where they wish to be (I know, spoilers, but that's okay.)
The issues with the scenario:
Islamically the husband is the wali of the wife. Not the parents. Therefore, they have no say in any decisions in the married couples lives.
The mother had the audacity to use the Hadith 'Heaven is under your mother's feet' as an argument for her daughter to listen to and obey her.
Clearly the latter being an awful, awful thing to say in an Islamic context (obviously).
Firstly, she has used a noble hadith from our Prophet Muhammad (saws) for the purposes of both blackmail and her own arrogance. She has not respected her deen, or her daughter, or her son-in-law.
Just thought this needed a post, as unfortunately, this is not the first time I have heard of a parent misusing their status in our deen to control their children.
It's a real, real problem - clearly it's required as Muslims that:
-More Sheikhs take on this topic, to remind our community.
-Children who know their deen talk to, and correct their parents in a respectful manner.
-We don't tolerate our deen being disrespected like this, just because they're our parents.
Wasalaam.
Abu Khadijah.
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