"Doesn't He Know Our Colour Is Expensive?"

Asalaamu alaykum wa rahmahtullahi wa barakatuh brothers and sisters in Islam.

This post, is about a comment that was told to my wife probably about three weeks prior to our marriage in July.
So, the story begins with a lady (of the same culture as my wife) visiting her and her family to 'congratulate' her on her recent engagement to myself (a revert brother.)
As I've been told all was going well and the visitor was very pleasant in the beginning of the meeting, but slowly the whole incident progressed from the pleasantries to an utter lecture - a racist one at that.
An encouragement for my wife to stick to her culture, and about how she should have never accepted my proposal for the very fact I was a revert. This is a truly, truly ugly fact that some members of our Ummah seem to hold. A certain prejudice against their own brothers and sisters - Muslims marry Muslims, clearly. Everyone knows that Islamically culture is totally irrelevant to whether or not two people are a good match.

Anyway, instead of continuing on with the rant maybe I should just cut to the chase, and get to the point. There is one quote, that my wife has passed onto me, that this lady said, that still has me totally disgusted and offended to this day (despite having no idea who she is.) and that is "Doesn't he know our colour is expensive?"

What's that to say? Your Muslim brother is not good enough for your Muslim sister? Other 'colours' aren't as 'rich' as yours?

And I sign out, with the following words of our Prophet (saws) in his last Khutbah, which I will also post:

"All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselve."

Wasalaam.
Abu Khadijah.